No More Shrinking: How Heartbreak Led Me Back to Me
- Latasha Harris
- Apr 6
- 2 min read

I gave him everything—my time, my patience, my softness, my love. I believed in him. I rooted for him. I held space for him, even when it left me empty.
And still… it wasn’t enough.
I found myself constantly pouring into someone who didn’t know how to hold what I was offering. The love I gave so freely? I ended up receiving the bare minimum in return. Crumbs, really. And for too long, I convinced myself that they were enough.
But one day, I had to face the truth: Loving him will cost me, me.
As women, we’re taught to nurture, to forgive, to keep giving. We put our partners first and often give ourselves what’s left over. We call it love. But it’s not love if it requires self-abandonment.
After the heartbreak, I didn’t bounce back overnight. I broke. I grieved. I questioned my worth. But in that breaking, something sacred began to rise.
I booked a one-way ticket to healing… and it started in Bali November 2023. Not just palm trees and pretty views—but real soul work.
Bali was my beginning. The beginning of choosing me. Of showing up for myself the way I used to show up for everyone else. Of reclaiming my softness and rewriting what love means—starting with the love I give myself.
Now, I’m in my self-care, self-love, and a little bit of selfish era…And I won’t apologize for it.
Because the next time love finds me, it will add to me—not take from me. It will be peace, not pressure. It will feel like home—not like hiding.
And if you’ve been there—if you’ve ever loved too deeply and lost yourself in the process—this is your reminder: You can choose you. You can begin again. And your healing matters.
If you’re ready to take your healing to the next level, I invite you to join me this November in Bali for the Heal and Hustle Retreat.
🌿 Week One (Nov 8–15): For Grieving Mothers
🌿 Week Two (Nov 15–22): For Women Ready to Reclaim Balance & Joy
Only 12 spots per week. Private villa. Deep connection. Real transformation.
$2750.00 for 7 days.
This is your sign. It’s time.
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